'Dramatic'

 Hey blogfam...wts happening...its bin awhile and have missed you guys. So lets get started and do what we do best. So I was lying on my bed some few days ago and doing my best hobby...thinking. Now that I have bin dating a lot and just going through the journey of dating...I have met so many guys that always say something that annoys me and that is 'Girls are too dramatic' ...I hate that statement so much and I have bin hearing it a lot.

First of all...I need guys to classify and clarify what 'dramatic' is because I think guys mistake dramatic with nagging. Just because a girls wants to talk doesn't mean she is dramatic, I think its better guys start to realize that girls and boys are different with the way they express their emotions..guys can afford to shut themselves out and act normal even when they are feeling emotionally down but girls like to express their emotions, they like to talk...so if thats bin dramatic..then oh well.

Then another annoying thing is when girls because they just really want to have a bf so badly would na say 'am not dramatic...I hate drama'...*yimu* I think girls that say that always turn out to be the most dramatic ones. Guys have to realize that drama is what makes we girls interesting...its the dramatic and emotional side of a girl that makes us the great lovers we are.

I think this dramatic issue too comes out also when a guy knows that he has done something wrong and the girl just wants to talk...then the dramatic allegation comes out. Abeg if guys cant stand the drama we girls have, then they can have gay relationships *shikena*. Also guys should make sure they clarify the difference between nagging and dramatic...being dramatic is not we girls nagging.

Am very passionate about this dramatic ish cos I used to distance myself from bin dramatic nd all bt then have come to realize I am dramatic and that doesn't stop me from bin the best girlfriend ever. I think every boy should just remember the drama DNA strand in us is what makes us fun and great, and relationships would be so boring without all the drama. Like guys just think back to all the angry sex you have had because of the girl bin dramatic..was it not like the best #okbye

So what do you guys think... Do you think boys dont know the difference between being dramatic and nagging?  And is bin dramatic not fun?  is it not what makes us the best.

I would like to wish my darlin friend Onome a happy bday and he's a big fan of the blog and also an inspiration...hp you have a great day.

Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

Am back...am feeling a bit down today..so have decided to cheer myself by blogging..hence the two posts...So you guys know have bin exploring my single life and just trying to have fun and I have bin hanging out a bit with Mr S...somethings happened recently that got me thinking....yh as usual.

I was thinking that there are some things that should be left unsaid or undone...let me explain..you know when you meet a guy and you like him..and then you are chatting and you feel tempted to ask him what he likes in a girl or the brave ones would ask what do you like abt me...or is it only me tht does that, I know I always ask tht question anytime I like a guy..what do you like in a girl and when he says those things...I start sifting out qualities i know I have in my head just to see if i have a chance...I know I hv issues

But recently, I learnt its not the best thing to do...now that we are in an era that guys have the big bum fever....hmmmm...I feel a bit insecure cos if you like someone as honest as Mr S..its a bit of a problem...I asked Mr S that question and he named some things..then he said before, I used to like girls with big bums but now am just about the inner qualities of a girl....well my heart sank a bit because I have a pancake bum..yes its that flat...poor me and anytime maybe am watching tv or walkin on the road with Mr S and I see a babe with a big bum....I start to feel uncomfortable but now I have told myself If Mr S leaves you for a girl with a big bum..then he was not the right person.

Another thing is dont go through a guy's phone because if you are not ready to find something wrong in your relationship..dont go searching...kk..wait let me rephrase....you can go through a guy's phone if you are suspicious about something but be ready for what you find. Something like that happened to me recently, I dont go through a guy's phone..i really dont have that much time but I got suspicious about something, so I decided to check it out and the things I found were dodgy....

I didn't want to confront him at first but when he became defensive and dramatic...I told him about it...he was upset about me going through his phone at first but he calmed down and apologized but even though everything is fine..sometimes I wish I didn't go through the phone. So blogfam, if u are not ready to leave that bliss of ignorance and you feel secure in your relationship...dont go through phones but if you are suspicious...check it out

Have said my piece and I feel happier alreadi....so what do you guys think....are somethings better left unsaid and undone

Guys dont know what they want

Hi guys, sorry abt not posting for awhile.......its bin a long month....cnt wait for May to come, I lost my phone on my birthday...cn you imagine...saddest day of my life but Mr S and my bestie Bimpe helped make it a great day.

But am still trying to cope without my fone, anyways lets get down to business...u knw nw that I dont have a phone...I hv so much time for my fav. hobby...thinking...Boys are actually the ones that dont know what they want

So yesterday night I was talking to a male friend about my match-making business, yh I hv decided to start match-making people...nd this idea was borne out of boredom...like me I have even found Mr right sef.  So I was like asking him what do you want in a girl and he was like she should be nice, kind and I was like thats all? and he was like oh she should have a big ass...and I just thought to myself I knew it...so I asked him If I found a pretty, nice and kind girl and she didn't have a big ass, you wont date her and he was like I dont know ooo
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And that made me start thinking, everyday you hear boys complaining, girls are hoes, they dont want love...blah blah but then these are the same boys that wont look for the proper qualities in a girl...its big boobs and big asses they would be looking for up and down...I understand boys have specs and the physical attraction is important but its not every boy that is going to get girls with big asses....sometimes Mr S annoys me too because he would see a picture of aa girl with a big ass and say 'Damn look at what she is carrying' *rme* and I have just a moment of self pity because am like me with my pancake bum...is that I dont have hope but then I really dont care

Physical attraction is important but then its the inner qualities that is going to keep a relationship together....boys should stop saying they want a nice, lovely girl but then they ignore the nice and lovely girls they see because she doesn't have big boobs or ass...When you go for the physical qualities...dont complain when you get what you had coming.

So do u guys agree with me that guys never really know what they want....

Does Size Really Matter?

 Hello blogfam, hope you guys are having a great week...all am doing is counting down to my birthday. Am sure i can guess what went through your minds when you guys saw the topic but its not that thing.

So I have been hanging out with Mr S for quite a bit now....just figuring out stuff and having fun. On one sunny day that I was in his house, we were with his friends and we were just gisting about stuff, when a friend of his got back from the gym and the gist turned to weight matters....instantly the convo became awkward for me, the guy was talking about how he saw some fat girls at the gym, and then all the boys started talking about they can't date fat girls and stuff, then Mr S decided to make the convo more awkward by talking about an ex-girlfriend that went from a size 10 to size 14 and was hiding it from him....i knew he was not saying it to hurt me but I still felt hurt.

This convo was awkward because am a size 16, so I see myself as a 'plus' size and then the guy I like is saying that a size 14 is too fat...I have actually been working on my weight since I got to Jand and am actually two dress sizes down but because of the awkward convo, I decided to increase my exercise classes, so I went for a two hour session and I have not recovered.....my body is killing me, I cant even talk or laugh....thats hw serious the pain is....all because of man *smh*

So while rolling on my bed in pain, I started thinking does size really matter? like skinny and slim is the new sexy.......so are they saying fat girls are not sexy and cant find love abi? I have actually had boys tell me they cant date me because of my weight, it has made me depressed but also resolute to embark on a weight loss program....its not for the boy but for my health and also to feel better about myself.

I dont think size should ever matter in relationship, yes you can encourage the person to lose weight for their health but never make the person feel inadequate or unloved because of their size, I have actually had friends that their boyfriends have broken up with them because they gained a little bit of weight. I understand boys have specs but trust me physical features are not everything in a relationship. I think you should be able to love someone for their personality and not for their body size or shape.

So am writing to you guys from my bed, still in serious pain because I wanted to go from Size 16 to 14 overnight *sigh*......I dont know who sent me. I just want everyone to embrace their bodies and be grateful to God for what they have. If you want to lose weight, do it for your well-being and health, not for anyone else.

So what do you guys think....does size really matter?

I Know What I Want

Hi guys, happy new month...and am so excited its April cos its my birthday month...whoop whoop. So I would be expecting some presents y'all. Enuf about wonderful me...lets get started on today's post.

I was talking to a male friend some days back and he kept saying something that annoyed me and its a statement so many guys say...can you guess already...'Girls don't know what they want'....I so hate that statement.

I think that statement is just what guys use to justify their actions when they do something wrong...so I decided to talk about it today, so that people won't say am making general assumptions...have decided to talk about what I want...even though I would still make some generalizations.



Every girl wants the same thing in a relationship or at least we have similar wants....for me in a relationship, I want trust, love, security, commitment.... I want a boyfriend that won't screw around, that would love me for who I am and who would push me to succeed....see guys that wasn't hard. Trust me 90% of girls want the same things I listed here...they just want to have a good relationship...a wonderful guy, we might be dramatic at times but that's why guys love us...it would be such a boring relationship without the drama...don't you think.

I think most times that guys make the statement of 'girls don't know what they want' is when they are about to do something wrong or when they have done it...then they start to make that statement to shift the blame to the girl...so that it seems like the girl's behavior pushed them to do what they did. I agree that some girls may not know why they want but those are the girls that don't want a relationship.

Girls who are ready for a relationship know what they want...I think it also scares guys when they know a girl knows what she wants because they know they can't afford to make a mistake. So guys stop generalizing....Girls know what they want even the ones that don't want a relationship still know what they hope to get from whatever situation they get themselves in. All a girl would ask is to be faithful, love her, trust her and be there for her. It might not be easy to get all these things but in the end...these are the end goals.

So what do you guys think....do you agree with me that girls know what they want or disagree that girls dnt have an idea of what they want