Cheating?

 Hey guys, so sorry have been MIA for awhile, schoolwork has been crazy, so to make up for all that, am going to be posting two stories today....Yaay!!!! So let's get started, first of all I want to talk about something I was thinking about.

I was talking to a friend of mine and she just found out her boyfriend had been asking for naked pictures from girls and has also been sexting them....I didn't even know Nigerians knew about sexting and she was really upset, so I was just trying to calm her down, and I asked her what she wants to do now with the relationship, because the boy has cheated on her once, and she shocked me when she said she was going to take the boy back and I reminded her about the other time he cheated, and she said something that baffled me and still does, she said at least he didn't have sex with the girls this time around, and that she didn't count the sexting and the nude pictures as cheating, she was only upset because she didn't know why her boyfriend didn't find her attractive again and he felt the need to ask for nude pictures from other girls.

This got me thinking that what do people now classify as cheating, because its like the lines and definition of cheating has been blurred, like I know I should not judge because people have different circumstances, but to me cheating involves my boyfriend kissing another girl, sexting, asking for nude pictures, it doesn't even have to involve sex, as far as you are thinking of another girl and then you start acting upon it...that's cheating, even if its a drunken kiss...why should a boy get so drunk, he doesn't know when a girl is kissing him.

Then this also got me thinking that how many times does a boy have to cheat on a girl, before she ends the relationship. I can remember when I used to tell my friends that a boy just has one strike and he's out but then I started reconsidering my decision when my friend's boyfriend cheated on her and she was so heartbroken, like the guy was dating the other babe for like a year, bought her everything she asked for and how my friend found out was because the other babe would call her and taunt her, then the boy broke it off, and that was like two years ago and my friend's relationship is back on track and they seem really happy.

This made me start thinking that maybe guys can actually change but then I feel like the trust would be no more there and it takes a while for it to be built again but I believe if the two people involved are ready, it might take time but it can be built again.

But I believe there are times that it's very obvious in some cheating situations when you should end it with the guy, even if it's his first time, like when a friend of mine was living in London with her boyfriend and then the boy went to Nigeria to visit, and two months after he got back to London, the boy tells her he got someone pregnant in Nigeria....my friend was heartbroken but she stuck with the boy and I was wondering why but it was not my place to tell her what to do, even though they are still together, the boy is now a repeat offender.

So those are my thoughts....so what do you guys think about cheating, what's cheating to you and how many strikes can a guy/girl get before he or she's out? Would love to hear your thoughts.