The Friend's Ex

 Hey guys, hope you had a great weekend...mine was just there. Thanks for all the comments, keep them coming. So yesterday night, I was thinking about something that I would like to share with you guys...

 Before I moved to Birmingham, I met this really cool guy called Bolaji at a party, I was outside when he and his friend also came outside and I knew his friend, so he introduced us and three of us started talking, I really had fun with Bolaji that night, he made me laugh so hard, so we exchanged numbers and bb pins. From that night on, Bolaji and I became really close, called each other almost every minute, we also spent every minute together. I was really happy and excited, I actually thought he could be the one....I know I always think every boy is the one abi.

Then it came crashing down.....as it always does....Bolaji and I went to an eatery and as we were playing and laughing with each other, I noticed his face changed, and I looked up, a babe had just entered the eatery and it was Bimpe, a friend of mine that I had been really close but we had drifted apart, we really didn't talk again but I missed her friendship, so I stood up to hug her and Bolaji just stood up and walked away....I was confused at this point.

So I went to meet Bolaji and I was asking what was wrong, he said nothing but on our way home, he asked how I knew Bimpe, and I told him how we had really been close but how some issues caused a rift but we were cool now....and I asked if he knew her and he said Bimpe was the babe he had told me about....I remembered Bolaji had told me about his last girlfriend who had cheated on him....and my heart started sinking....I can't date Bolaji, he is my friend's ex boyfriend.

Then Bimpe called me that night when I got home and started asking questions of life, like am I dating Bolaji and stuff like that and I told no but we liked each other, she started crying and reminded me of the guy she told me about, the one she had been trying to get back and could not stop thinking about....yh Bolaji....I kept asking myself how I didn't connect the dots.

To cut the long story of life short...I started to keep away from Bolaji and when I could not hold off his calls again, I told him I could not date him because he was my friend's ex....he didn't understand but he accepted it. We stopped talking and Bimpe nd I's friendship got back on track. Not dating Bolaji was and still is one of the most heart wrenching decisions I ever had to make and I regret it almost everyday.

The irony of this story is that Bolaji and Bimpe are engaged....yeah they started dating few months after I left him....Bimpe really tried to win him back and she did. Am very happy for them or at least as happy as I can be. So I was thinking yesterday, could Bolaji have been the one and did I lose him because of the 'girl code'....'never date your friend's ex'.

So I want to ask you guys, can you date your friend's ex boyfriend and, is dating him right or wrong? Also to remind you, that you can send your stories to adejumokesijuwade@gmail.com