Break-Up Diet

Hey guys..hp you are having a grt week. First of all I hv to dedicate this blog to Lucy Meck and Sam Faiers of TOWIE....it's a British reality show. These two girls inspired this post and the break-up diet. Let me go bk a little..so u cn understand me...these two girls..Lucy and Sam just broke up with their boyfriends and immediately they went on a diet and started some exercises...nw they re the hottest girls in UK. So I decided to go on a break-up diet too...u knw tk my mind off MR S.

When I told a friend that am on the break-up diet..she found it funny cos most girls tend to get fat after a break-up cos they turn to comfort food but nt me....I think after a heartbreak every girl should get a makeover...u dnt want to be caught looking frumpy if u happen to run into your ex. 

I was already on a healthy eating plan b4 the break-up but nw this has intensified my efforts...more exercising and less sugar. The thing is tht Mr S and I both Iive in Bham...the Nigerian community is small and tight knit..so we are bound to run into each other...I dnt want to be looking like oompa loompa....u knw. Like check out Beyonce's mother...Tina Knowles....hv u seen her after her divorce...she looks amazing...thts the break-up makeover yo.

Let me clarify something, the break-up diet/makeover is not to win the boy bk...there was a reason the break-up happened. The diet is just to make u feel better abt urself and take your mind off everything....looking good and feeling good brings about confidence. I feel good with this my diet...I cn already feel the changes in my body and my mood has improved. I didn't go on a fad diet..I just made some healthy changes in my lifestyle. It's always great to look good for yourself....am sexy and I know it *dancing*

Expectations

Hey blogfam...hp you guys had a grt weekend. Last week I told you guys abt the sad demise of Mr S and I's relationship...very sad.

Anyways I didn't tell you guys, the root cause of the demise...it was due to expectations...yh expectations...apparently as a single girl in an unofficial relationship..I wasn't allowed to expect anything. So you know every girl has expectations whether you are single, dating or married...lets jst say everyone..whether you are a boy or girl. Like if you are single, you expect tht the boy 'toasting' you would show a considerable level of interest and if you are dating or married...there are certain expectations that you expect to be met.

You know hw I was all giddy abt unofficial relationships...well they suck...let me tell you why. If you are in an unofficial relationship, you can't have expectations...cos it kills the relationship. Wen I was with Mr S, I expected some things...calling me, wanting to see me bt apparently that ws too much for Mr S and he told me as much...he said you expect too much..and at first I didn't understand...why shd I nt have expectations...practically everyone knows us together..we know we like each, and I got confused.

But thinking about it tonite I finally understand...just because the boy likes u or u hv some mouth action with him doesn't mean u are together...until he ask if you wud be his girlfriend and u become official...then you can hv expectations...then if you don't hear from him for like a week...u hv the right to be upset. Being unofficial still means u are technically single...so you can't lay by demands or expect things. You hv to live with the mantra 'expect nothing'...cos when you hv no expectations...u wud be pleasantly surprised. 

Thanks to Mr S for telling me to have no expectations bcos it was the wake-up call I needed to get out of a stagnant relationship. So what do you guys think...expectations or no expectations

So am on a break-up diet..lool..would tell you guys all abt it in my nxt post. Hv a blessed week.

The Almost Girl-Friend

Hey guys...hp you guys are enjoying the new posts...so this is the third one I promised....after this, wud start updating regularly....first of all this post is dedicated to all the almost girlfriends, the almost fiancées.....the lord will grant u guys ur heart desires (Amen). I am not mocking anyone...am even an almost girlfriend sef...kk am sure u guys are lost...let me backtrack a bit.

So I came across a book recently titled 'Confessions of An Almost Girlfriend'...and I thot tht ws the funniest title I hv hrd in a while....An Almost Girlfriend and it dawned on me suddenly tht I am an almost girlfriend...so I realli didn't find it so funny again. Let me explain wt An Almost Girlfriend is...u knw wen u are with someone or u are supposed to be in a relationship but u are nt realli...u cn not boldly say I am dating this person...so technically u are single...so An Almost Fiancée is the one that cn see the ring in her future...future is even too far sef...she already knows the cut, the colour, the size of the diamond...she has even practiced all her expressions for saying yes but....the fact is tht there's still no ring on the finger.....then the Almost Wife..I think this is the saddest sef...the one tht has engaged for ages past...for like 10 yrs..

U know the saddest thing abt all the almost is tht they cn see their heart desires right in front of them...the almost girlfriends tht just wants the lover to ask out and utter those wonderful words 'Will you be my Girlfriend' and start a proper relationship...the almost fiancées tht just want to be asked the ultimate question...'Will you marry me' and Shebi I cn even relate with the almost gfs but I cnt even imagine hw the almost fiancées feel now tht Peter and Lola Omotayo hv tensioned them with Range Rover...abi is it Dr Sid tht whisked his babe to Venice and proposed there....plenrri tension. Then the Almost Wives tht they just want to say those great words 'I Do'.....very sad

Another thing is tht all these almost ppl...they are the ones tht knw all the family members and friends of their lovers.....and the family and friends know and love them but the lovers can't be bothered. When I was looking at the book, I just thot there are so many almost out there...like me. I was an almost girlfriend for at least 5 months...thank God I escaped early sef.....and I did all the responsibilities of a gf even tho I was not one...and when ppl ask are you single...just a simple question and you just see me giving them tales by moonlight.

Thinking abt it sef...those Almost Fiancées even hv a grt role model....in the person of Lola Omotayo....seriously she was almost fiancée for 8yrs....and see where she's in life now...she has moved up the rank to Almost Wife with a Range Rover....so don't give up....ur miracle is cmin soon

Anyways hp no one takes this too seriously....just kidding...just trying to poke fun at my almost girlfriend status. Hv a grt weekend blogfam

Taking it Slow

Hey blogfam...am so so sorry I abandoned my blog....didn't really abandon it tho, hv just not bin in the right state of mind...so many things hv bin happening bt am back for good yo. So to celebrate my return, I wud be posting at least three stories tonight ..so lets get started...so many things to gist you guys abt. First of all, congrats to Simi Osomo and Dr Sid...my fav celeb couple and then Peter and Lola Omotayo...finally they are engaged..good on them. Enuf with the famzing....back to reality 

So Mr S and I are going through a really rough patch...and I doubt if we can survive it...I dnt knw if I want to be with him...cos I just think we are at two different places in our lives and we hv really different goals. So today I kept thinking about what went wrong and I was reading a mag where a girl was saying the boy she is dating is a keeper but she wants to take things slow and wants to keep things stress-free and I just thot to myself I never understand what people mean when they say 'am taking things slow'

I really dnt understand, when you meet someone, how long do u take it slow for....like what are the dos and donts of taking it slow....like you hide your emotions from the person, you don't bother calling or checking on each other and you can flirt with other people...I think people just put pressure on themselves when you say you are taking it too slow...cos you start to double check your actions..like if u call the boy more than once a day..u are not sure if that's taking it slow...also you start to wonder when should you start getting serious and also if the boy acts nonchalant about the relationship...you sum it up to taking it slow.

I just think the taking it slow ish is just stressful and adds undue pressure to the relationship...I just think before you date someone, be sure you guys have a clear vision of what you guys want and if you know u dnt want to be serious..then both of u should agree. I think Mr S and I were already doomed from the start, we are both at different levels in our lives, yeah of course we wanted to take it slow in the beginning but after 7 months...u start to wonder if its not too slow.

I hp you guys understand wt am saying about taking it slow...nt that its not a good thing but its better to realize when taking it slow becomes an excuse for someone not stepping up to their responsibilities or when they just want out of the relationship and don't know how to say it.

So it's good to be bk and. ...oh yh happy public holiday to my Nigerian peeps...dnt knw if I cn say it like that but you guys understand what am saying sha... Hv a great weekend guys