Don't Be Nice

Sometimes you just have to be an arse, rain on people's parades..yh I know it sounds mean but sometimes being mean to people is how you get them to become better in life.

I had this friend who was in a long term relationship, she had been dating the boy for four years, when she started to realize that the relationship was not just working, she and the boy had drifted apart and had become two different people over the years, but she was too scared to break it off because she didn't want to be seen as a bad person, until last year the boy proposed out of the blue, she said yes because it was in a public setting but the next day, she sat the boy down and explained how she felt and that she wanted a break up. The boy obviously got upset and people thought she was evil, but she had to be an arse because she knew being married to that boy will just cause sadness and pain for both of them and the marriage might end in divorce...so would you say she should still have gotten married because she didn't want to be seen as a bad person, if she had remained in that relationship, that would just have been pure selfishness.

Or like this guy my friend introduced me to recently, he told my friend he liked me and so he decided to match make us, immediately I started talking to the guy, I knew nothing could happen between us and I had to tell him, that nothing could happen between us, and we can't be friends either because lord knows I really don't need any new friends in my life especially boys, and I deleted him off my bbm, that might sound harsh but the fact is the boy liked me and would probably not have settled for us just being friends...so why not be the 'bad guy' now and let the boy jejeley move on..abi

Another friend who was battling weight issues, she was overweight and it was beginning to affect her health, and she was in a relationship with a really skinny guy, who never cautioned her or help her with her weight issues...he even used to over feed her sometimes and make her eat junk, until he left her for a skinner person. She met another guy and started dating him, this guy decided to help her become fit, he would even go as far as threatening to break up with her if he felt she was relapsing, he was not going to but he knew that being an arse like that would save his girlfriend's life. 

I hate when I see guys lead girls on and vice versa, and then say oh I don't know how to tell the person I don't like them, so you think the person prefers you leading them on when you know it's not going anywhere...let me tell you, ending things with people and letting them know your true feelings is always appreciated, nobody wants to be lied too and if anyone takes the news badly and thinks you are arse..then oh well if being nice and honest is what makes you an arse..then I guess you are.