I was talking to a male friend some days back and he kept saying something that annoyed me and its a statement so many guys say...can you guess already...'Girls don't know what they want'....I so hate that statement.
I think that statement is just what guys use to justify their actions when they do something wrong...so I decided to talk about it today, so that people won't say am making general assumptions...have decided to talk about what I want...even though I would still make some generalizations.
Every girl wants the same thing in a relationship or at least we have similar wants....for me in a relationship, I want trust, love, security, commitment.... I want a boyfriend that won't screw around, that would love me for who I am and who would push me to succeed....see guys that wasn't hard. Trust me 90% of girls want the same things I listed here...they just want to have a good relationship...a wonderful guy, we might be dramatic at times but that's why guys love us...it would be such a boring relationship without the drama...don't you think.I think most times that guys make the statement of 'girls don't know what they want' is when they are about to do something wrong or when they have done it...then they start to make that statement to shift the blame to the girl...so that it seems like the girl's behavior pushed them to do what they did. I agree that some girls may not know why they want but those are the girls that don't want a relationship.
Girls who are ready for a relationship know what they want...I think it also scares guys when they know a girl knows what she wants because they know they can't afford to make a mistake. So guys stop generalizing....Girls know what they want even the ones that don't want a relationship still know what they hope to get from whatever situation they get themselves in. All a girl would ask is to be faithful, love her, trust her and be there for her. It might not be easy to get all these things but in the end...these are the end goals.
So what do you guys think....do you agree with me that girls know what they want or disagree that girls dnt have an idea of what they want
Yh I totali agree wif u,most gals def knw wat dey want,so guyz shld stop assumin oda wise..nyc blog btw :D
ReplyDeletetrue dat i second most girls know what they want and its not all just most bcos 1. not asll girls want what you just listed they want to b wild and free, they wanna play and hav fun and dont wanna settle down 2. some girls dont know to be honest and have had many scenarios when i talked with both parties my humble opinion.... Toby21
ReplyDeleteI agree wit u on dis.those r the basic things everygirl who wants a serious relationship would expect from her man.Girls know wat we want it might just be difficult to explain.
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@Tobi,all ladies know what they want,even the wild ones have their reasons for being wild.
ReplyDeleteGirls kno exactly want they want though dey might have difficulty in expressing it. Bisi
ReplyDeleteI strongly disagree with this theory, giving a girl that doesn't mean she would stay or even allow you to stay. I really believe that most girls enter into a relationship with their friend's aspect. How do you justify trauma a guy goes through only to discover that the girl is been controlled by her friends. For me, if you don't meet me half-way through this deal in a relationship; I wouldn't meet you half way also.
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