Expectations

Hey blogfam...hp you guys had a grt weekend. Last week I told you guys abt the sad demise of Mr S and I's relationship...very sad.

Anyways I didn't tell you guys, the root cause of the demise...it was due to expectations...yh expectations...apparently as a single girl in an unofficial relationship..I wasn't allowed to expect anything. So you know every girl has expectations whether you are single, dating or married...lets jst say everyone..whether you are a boy or girl. Like if you are single, you expect tht the boy 'toasting' you would show a considerable level of interest and if you are dating or married...there are certain expectations that you expect to be met.

You know hw I was all giddy abt unofficial relationships...well they suck...let me tell you why. If you are in an unofficial relationship, you can't have expectations...cos it kills the relationship. Wen I was with Mr S, I expected some things...calling me, wanting to see me bt apparently that ws too much for Mr S and he told me as much...he said you expect too much..and at first I didn't understand...why shd I nt have expectations...practically everyone knows us together..we know we like each, and I got confused.

But thinking about it tonite I finally understand...just because the boy likes u or u hv some mouth action with him doesn't mean u are together...until he ask if you wud be his girlfriend and u become official...then you can hv expectations...then if you don't hear from him for like a week...u hv the right to be upset. Being unofficial still means u are technically single...so you can't lay by demands or expect things. You hv to live with the mantra 'expect nothing'...cos when you hv no expectations...u wud be pleasantly surprised. 

Thanks to Mr S for telling me to have no expectations bcos it was the wake-up call I needed to get out of a stagnant relationship. So what do you guys think...expectations or no expectations

So am on a break-up diet..lool..would tell you guys all abt it in my nxt post. Hv a blessed week.