Hello blogfam...hp y'all are gud. Was thinking of something and I wanted to share it with you guys. Okay so am here debating about what to wear for a dinner date...yh I hv a date and it's a first....so I hv to choose wisely. Like its a proper restaurant...not like nandos or smethin, so I hv to dress smartly, but wt does dressing smartly mean....like I cnt just wear t-shirt and jeans...okay I get it. I hate dressing up...aargh. I actually caused this predicament for myself...we could easily hv gone to watch a movie.
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should I be sexy on the first date and show some cleavage..maybe cleavage is not a really gud idea..I want us to have a proper convo..I
dnt want him to not be able to keep his eyes on my face. Or maybe go for
the girl next door look....like just a safe option..all buttoned up but
then I don't want him to think am a prude, or that am boring....Also
maybe piling up the jewellery might not be a good idea, I dnt want him
thinking I hv the money miss road syndrome ...also nt too many
colours..dnt want to blind the boy...gosh..so many options
Anyways
all this debating led me to call my friend and she just made it worse
by uttering these words 'just be yourself'....huh..wt does tht mean?
Like I hear that a lot and I actually use to tell people tht too but
it's not easy. If I was to be myself...I would be having the first date
in a cinema with me wearing a top and jeans....okay if I ws truly being
myself...I wud be huddled under my blanket sleeping cos it's too cold to
be goin on a date sef. If I decided to go on the date as myself...I would be in flats or my boots....no heels.
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I would really like people to explain what, just be yourself means....I
really don't get it. How many ppl cn truly be themselves...like you go
on a first date with the person....a girl might not want to wear make up
but she has to, just to keep up appearances. Or like a boy tht invites
you to his place..if he really wants to be himself...he wud rather watch
super sports or play FIFA and eat left over pizza.
So my question is what does be urself mean and cn u ever truly be yourself when you meet someone for the first time.
And with all this story of life...still dnt knw to wear...oh well. Hv a blessed week guys
i guess its human nature to give a good first impression bt the idea of me killing and suffering myself for good impression; ko joor! As ur friend said b urself as in do wat makes u comfortable and hapi. If its 6inches n a mini dress ur comfortable in, gud 4 u. But for me 2 change mysef jst for a first date for you 2 like me, boo there r many fishes in the ocean n have a nice day. Dts al!
ReplyDeleteLol! No one can " just be yourself" we are all victims of circumstances. Biko let the cleavage pop
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, the first appearance has to be a charmer. If I were being myself,nd I was on a proper date with me,meeting "me" for the first time, I certainly would want to make an impression. I won't carry my chicken bone crushing, homebody, series loving self to meet me. I think you av to get comfortable with the person u r on a date with, then u can be urself. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteWear somfin u comfortable in n can feel free in...#ThatsBeingUrself
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