Wednesday, 20 February 2013

Butterflies

Hello blogfam, so sorry I have not posted anything a while, I have been so busy with school work...am tired sef, want to go back to Naija *crying*....enough of my sad and pathetic sobs. So I was thinking today....some 'deep' thinking and I realized am sure I come across as a jerk magnet...okay maybe I am, a little bit but I also meet good guys, which made me think of something else...so here it goes

So I met this guy called Damilare after all the ish with Mr L and D, but I was not ready for any relationship with anyone, so we became good friends and we also have some cool common interests...so according to dating books, those are perfect ingredients to a wonderful relationship but something was missing....butterflies...yes butterflies



Okay let me explain what I mean by butterflies, you know when you meet a guy you really like and even when you start dating and just seeing him makes your tummy turn into butterflies, seeing him just makes you smile, even when you just hear his voice, your heart skips a bit...all that mushy mushy stuff...yeah that was not happening with me and Damilare. I was not physically attracted to him...and when I mean physical attraction, not talking about looks...I didn't get butterflies, my heart didn't skip if I see or if I hear his voice....I could actually go days without talking to him and talking to him was like a chore sometimes.

The thing about it is that I like Damilare a little and I want it to work but I can not just bring myself to date someone that when he calls, I would throw my phone under the bed because I don't want to pick up...yeah I actually did that. The thing about all this ish about butterflies and heart skipping is that I know it's true....so why should I settle for someone that doesn't cause all that because he is a good guy.

My best friend thinks am crazy, because she is really adamant that I date him because she believes I would grow to like him after I start dating him, that I would start to have all those feelings because that was how her relationship with her current boyfriend started and I want to believe my best friend because she has the cutest relationship I know.

So what do you guys think, do you think my bestie is right, I should forget about butterflies and skipping heartbeats and date this guy, I might just grow to like him more and finally have some butterflies, skipping heartbeats and smiles creeping on my face when I see him.

Also to remind you guys, that you can still send in your stories to adejumokesijuwade@gmail.com. Can't wait to hear from you guys.
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10 comments:

  1. Anonymous20 February 2013 at 13:11

    I once read somewhere and I agree that at a point in a long term relationship, u start to get bored. You start to tire talking to the same person. It is at that point the physical and initial attraction that drew you to that person in the beginning comes to play therefore I don't agree with settling for less. It doesn't have to be butterflies but there has to be a stir no matter how lil and if you don't feel that, I wonder what u r hoping to grow.....

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  2. Anonymous20 February 2013 at 13:19

    Finally...
    Dami

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  3. bimpe20 February 2013 at 13:24

    Hahahahaha! Jumoke ti pami o! You don't have an option u hv to date him! Give it a try! And thanks sweet! I know I hv d cutest relationship! (Forever Amen)

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  4. Anonymous20 February 2013 at 13:37

    Imagine oh! Here I was feeling like a bad guy. Well now sha we all know its a diff story, I'm badT lyk that... I think u should ff ur besties advice tho I think sha

    @Bimpe Amen!

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  5. Anonymous20 February 2013 at 23:22

    Hello, sincerely, if u date him you might end up breaking up with him. Am going through a very similar experience. Good boy, comfortable, doesn't drink, doesn't womanize, doesn't smoke and every1 in my house just loved him. I had no butterflies not even eggs talk more of larva or pupa that turns into butterfly. But peeps kept saying u will grow 2 love him. This has been 3yrs ago and I haven't grown one inch. We ended up last year after 2yrs of time wasting. It was obvious he was d only 1 in d "relationship". I really felt bad cos I knew the r/ship was exhausting to him. Yours might not be the same experience like mine but plsssSssssssSsssssSssssssS follow ur heart.

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  6. Anonymous21 February 2013 at 06:04

    As a guy, I think it would be unfair to date the guy who you got no butterflies for but then could it be that you got no butterfly for him coz of the last two jerks.

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  7. Iyunoluwa22 February 2013 at 09:14

    Jumoke, heya! I understand ur plight, well our friends always wish the best for us but really do we want that? I feel u shd take ur time and just wait for that spark but if it's taking too long, let it go, it won't be nice leading him on and leaving him hopeless at the end.

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  8. Anonymous22 February 2013 at 12:03

    I agree that ranti and Bimpe have d cutest rel Eva...don't start blushing nau... Lol... But I wouldn't give up my butterflies for anything. I still want to feel everything at every point of it all. So my advice, pls don't settle. Not all rels can b like ur besties

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  9. Anonymous23 February 2013 at 04:54

    What's with you all and butterflies? I heard somewhere that a lady can tell already from the first 15 minutes of meeting a guy if he's someone she can date. LD

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  10. Anonymous24 February 2013 at 16:05

    No comment...

    TOBI

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