So Mr S and I are going through a really rough patch...and I doubt if we can survive it...I dnt knw if I want to be with him...cos I just think we are at two different places in our lives and we hv really different goals. So today I kept thinking about what went wrong and I was reading a mag where a girl was saying the boy she is dating is a keeper but she wants to take things slow and wants to keep things stress-free and I just thot to myself I never understand what people mean when they say 'am taking things slow'
I really dnt understand, when you meet someone, how long do u take it slow for....like what are the dos and donts of taking it slow....like you hide your emotions from the person, you don't bother calling or checking on each other and you can flirt with other people...I think people just put pressure on themselves when you say you are taking it too slow...cos you start to double check your actions..like if u call the boy more than once a day..u are not sure if that's taking it slow...also you start to wonder when should you start getting serious and also if the boy acts nonchalant about the relationship...you sum it up to taking it slow.
I just think the taking it slow ish is just stressful and adds undue pressure to the relationship...I just think before you date someone, be sure you guys have a clear vision of what you guys want and if you know u dnt want to be serious..then both of u should agree. I think Mr S and I were already doomed from the start, we are both at different levels in our lives, yeah of course we wanted to take it slow in the beginning but after 7 months...u start to wonder if its not too slow.
I hp you guys understand wt am saying about taking it slow...nt that its not a good thing but its better to realize when taking it slow becomes an excuse for someone not stepping up to their responsibilities or when they just want out of the relationship and don't know how to say it.
So it's good to be bk and. ...oh yh happy public holiday to my Nigerian peeps...dnt knw if I cn say it like that but you guys understand what am saying sha... Hv a great weekend guys
I knw...me too I always wonder..like wt does taking it slow mean
ReplyDeleteWelcome back!!! And yeah! Yeah! Really enjoyed the 2-day holiday! Really, I also don't get the concept of taking things slow... Make up your mind before dating, once you are in, you are in except you want out.
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is with Mr S, I hope u work something out and still remain good friends. Be good dear
Rili, Diaz notin lyk takin it slow. It's jst an excuse nt 2 b hooked up completely whc cud b a functn of ur fear of d future in dat relatnship. No doubt, easy does it. U only take it slow wn u guys r datin den u kiss bt u Dnt jst jump in2 sex or in 2mths, u already wnt 2 move in2 his haus. Nw, dats wia u shud take it slow bt makin out wt a guy n kissin wneva u bth cn n he hasn't popped d questn or u spendin his resources n nt givin an ansa 2 his quest, dats definitely nt takin it slow bt simply being insensitive.
ReplyDeletelmao @ u jes dnt jump into sex or move into his haus in 2mnths.....who does dt tho?
DeletePple do dat oooo, bimp
Deleteℓ☺ℓ....can I use d word 'bollix' 4 u.....cos dats wat it was.....Total BS....you see....a guy alredi knws wat he wants d moment he sets eyes on a girl....whether its sex(short or long term)...friendship....or a r.ship....eida way...be knows n with day calculate his nxt move....n I thought there was a sayin abt girls knowin whr n what d guy would be some minutes after taking to him....#rolling eyes.....I gues what am saying is you both were fooling yaselvz 4rm d onset.....cos if u wanted something more with this guy....u would have said something a long time ago....(ok...my gist z getting reali long)...point is just b open abt what you feel n let d rest take course....unless ofcos u alredi know what u want and you are just pretending hoping to get away with it....hmmmph..."takin it slow"...
ReplyDeleteThere is actually no such thing as taking anything slow. When someone talks about taking relationship slow, apparently she/ he is already tired of the relationship..
ReplyDeleteJust gotta agree...nofin like the flimsy taking t slow...buncha myopic talk...u either in or out...tis just like saying 'let's give t a trial'...damn!dats a sucker I once fell for...aint nofin like a effing trial mehn!
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